Who do you trust to give you the best possible answer to your business or life dilemmas? Do you seek out an “expert” in the field for an objective assessment or do you unconsciously gravitate to someone with your point of view?

The wife of a well-known surgeon once counseled me not to go to a surgeon for an opinion if I didn’t want surgery. That was obvious and yet brilliant advice.

A friend has been working on transitioning her business to leverage intellectual property. The plan is well-considered and comprehensive and not yet implemented. She sought out an opinion from someone that she respected who was successful in a similar line of work. This “expert” also happened to have a background in accounting. Her advice was if it isn’t adding to the bottom-line – forget it no matter how much FUN it may be. PERIOD. I can imagine that on the Tough- Tender dichotomy of the Thinking- Feeling preferences this person would fall under the Tough side of things.

People with this way of being in the world have a kind of forceful clarity that is hard to argue against. Since my friend happens to be ENTP (with some out of preference on the J side) she was initially in sync with this perspective 100%.

In the first stages of a plan when things aren’t clear (yet) it is worth listening to a carefully select few. Someone with your own personality type or temperament type may be on the same wave length with you. If you also stay open to input from someone with a different way of processing information, you may find something to add to or shift your thinking to round out your plan.

Ultimately you need to do what lines up for you and that will be sustainable. In the end my friend kept the parts of her plan that integrated the expert advice and retained the parts that were not so bottom-line focused but that connected with her passion and motivation.

I have the feeling that she will create something even better than she could currently imagine.

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Are you like me in that most of your friends are in a similar kind of work? Most of our family friends are independent business owners, consultants/coaches or professionals working in their own practice – all this laced with a smattering of entrepreneur. One implication of this is that a dinner party with friends, some of whom are of high school vintage, will include our accountant, bookkeeper, lawyer, security system provider, graphic designer, software wizard etc. etc. It works both ways as some friends who are coaches/consultants engage me to facilitate planning sessions personally or as a collaborative venture with their clients and some friends have my art on their walls.

Understanding the MBTI type of your friends may provide insight if there is the odd bump in the road in your everyday interactions. However when you do business together the value of understanding differences and appreciating where the person is coming from and how to communicate with them more effectively can be a critical factor in maintaining a strong relationship on a professional level. Of course keeping things going smoothly has huge implications on a personal level.

Some people may caution against working with friends. My approach is to take it on a case by case basis. Some people you can work with and with others you need to trust your gut. If working together would place too much strain on your friendship, it is not worth the temptation of working with someone who knows you well.

On the other hand one side implication is that you get to see your friend in a different context. If this context is stressful, it may have some negative side effects. However, the other day I was amazed and delighted to have the pleasure of seeing someone I have known for years in the midst of using their expertise. They were masterful beyond anything I had expected and it was a joy to behold. I have learned so much from my friends and appreciate the gifts that they share in my life

What is your policy about working with friends?

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Sensing and Intuitive Entrepreneurs in Action

Sensing and Intuitive Entrepreneurs in Action

This “Doodle” came out of a chicken and egg conversation I had this week. The natural starting point for those who prefer Intuition is with the big picture. Those with a Sensing preference may start with something more concrete and visible and build the big picture as the pieces add up.

Even though I know better – this still blows my mind.

Where do you start? AND how does it work for you?

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img_1278“Notes from the Universe” arrives like clockwork in my email bringing me upliftng reminders and dollops of wisdom. This missive is sent from the witty and wise Michael Dooley -entrepreneur, author and current day thought provoker. Michael Bungay Stanier talks with Michael in the most recent of his “Great Work Interviews.”

Michael Bungay Stanier challenges us to shift from doing “lots of work” and thinking that that is what counts to doing “great” work. Great work is soul stuff…what we are meant to be doing. I think you will enjoy this “Great Work Interviews.”>audio. It is a confirmation that working to get the best pay cheque can’t hold a candle to doing work you LOVE that fits you to a “T”

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A BIG fallacy in the name “solopreneur” is that you can do everything you need to run your business by your self aka “solo”. You need to know when you need additional expertise. There are also times when you may have the knowledge BUT if the task is having you work against type the question to ask is “Is this worth the energy drain when I could be spending my time differently in an area where I am in alignment with my MBTI type preferences.”

This painting is called “Gesture” and it is a mark of exuberance. This is in recognition that I was unable to use images in this blog for several months. I could not FIX it but Boris could. I chose this image because of the release of energy and enthusiasm I am feeling now that this problem has been resolved.

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